22 December 2012

Don't Worry Mom

"It requires energy and effort to go through pregnancy and labour. 
And it requires love, patience, responsibility, consistency and wisdom from above to bring up that very child from day one." ~Leonny



Parenting comes as a parcel of ups and downs....
There are times that I find it very challenging to be a good mother....
And I am still far from perfect and still learning till today...

There are times when I feel that my patience and wisdom are challenged right up to the limit...

There are times when Timmy makes me laugh....and we have a good time together...
There are times when he gives me headache, until my head spins....

And yesterday, he told me something very comforting....
he said: "Don't worry Mom...I'm here to help you. I'm strong. I'm your protector."

Thank you Tim.
That's sweet of you.

Is Teenager Coming Too Early?

Timmy is 7 years old now,
and he said: "I wish I am big, so I don't have to listen to my Mom's instruction."

Oh...is teenager coming too early?


He should read this. hehehe...
Photo

Totally Speechless

I have been saying these words to Timmy: 
Me: "Tim, even though I have to discipline you, I love you the same. 

And today, he surprised me with his copy-cat version of mine, but editing it to his own version: 
Tim: "Mom, even though I don't like your discipline, I still love you the same." 

(I had a jaw-dropped, eyes wide open and totally speechless.)

The Prophet ~ Kahlil Gibran, 1926

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, Speak to us of Children. 
And he said: 
Your children are not your children. 
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing
for itself.

They come through you but not from you, 
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. 

You may give them your love, but not your thoughts, 
For they have their own thoughts. 
You may house their bodies but not their souls, 
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, 
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. 
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The Archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, 
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the Archer's hand be for gladness; 

For even as He loves the arrow that flies, 
so He loves also the bow that is stable. 

The Prophet
Kahlil Gibran
1926

A Look Ahead

I am reading a book, titled: The Happy Child, Everything You Need to Know to Raise Enthusiastic, Confident Children, by Linda Blair.

I really like the Afterword, at the end of the book, which read:

"When you become a parent, you take one of the most significant steps you'll ever take in your life. You sign up for a job that offers no holidays. It demands that you be on call seven days a week - and that includes nights, particularly at first, and then again when your child becomes a teenager.

Furthermore, you can't expect payment - that is, you can hope your child will appreciate the efforts you make on their behalf, but there's no way you can guarantee any thanks.

And yet, despite that daunting picture, parenting is the best job you'll ever have.

During the early years of your child's life, our role is primarily to work for your child.
You'll care for him completely when he's a tiny baby,
and keep him safe while he learns to move about independently
and to master language when he's a toddler.
You'll introduce him gradually and lovingly into the social world, let him explore and learn about his environment, and answer his endless questions when he's a preschooler.

When he's a school child, he'll be able to take care of himself in many ways and he'll spend entire days away from his home and family. He'll then really begin to create his own life.

From this stage on, the balance between you will shift significantly.
No longer will he be so dependent on you.
Instead of working for him, you'll begin to work more and more often with him.

This shift will continue throughout his tweens and teens,
until at the end of his teenage years, it will be time for you to take the most difficult and the most selfless of all the steps you will ever take as a parent.

Then will be the time when you must show him that you trust his maturity, and that you have faith in his abilities, his knowledge and his judgement.

That's when you'll set him free..."







08 December 2012

Honey.....Bunny

I was giving something to Timmy, while saying: "There you are, Honey..."
and Timmy replied: "Thank you Bunny..."

And we both laughed at our "Honey...Bunny..."

I got carried over, and everytime I speak to him, I called him "Honey."
Like for example, "Do you want it honey?"  "What do you think, Honey?"

Then Timmy told me: "Stop calling me Honey..., or I'll be angry..."
Ooops...

Timmy's quote of the day is:  "The fluffy bunny bunny..."
with a rhyme that sings 5531353.

Hahahaha....Honey...Bunny....

04 December 2012

Motorbike Ride with Papa

This was one of the moments when Timmy got to spend his time with Papa.
Motorbike ride together!  He just loves to ride that motor with Papa.

Here are the snapshots.

First, hoplah! Papa lifted him up to be on the motor.
Up, up and up!

Second, Timmy's up and his hands were on the steeringwheel, with his tie of the hook. hahahaha....
Brm....brmm...




The excited boy, with a big smile on his face.
Front teethless smile!
This is one sweet memory....his teeth are no longer teethless now...
And I like this photo, of how Timmy's small left hand were holding on to Benny's big hand.

And another super excited face! Hahaha.. 



 Captured another smile, Daddy's smile. Hahaha...

Off they go! Brmmmmm....brmmmm

Dad's Little Helper


This was taken sometime back in April 2012,
when Timmy became Dad's little helper in doing his project.
This boy really helped out inserting the little component.
Thanks Tim, your help counts. :)

23 October 2012

Arts and Craft with Paintbrush

I just love to have arts and craft session with Timmy.

Here are the snapshots when we drew big hearts with watercolour and paint brush.



This is my favorite photos, capturing Timmy's smile as he blot his paint brush on the paint. hehehe...



21 October 2012

Play Time with Friends

Kids....can do lots of things to entertain themselves.

Here are the snapshots of the kids...
stacking the rubber mat (which was supposed to be sit on),
until so high, that they had to climb onto a chair to continue stacking it.



Note to Timmy: 

I like it when you can share and play together with your friends, Tim.
Keep up the good work.

Love,
Mama

Kokoru

Timmy had this Kokoru from school.
It's made from colorful carton stripes that we can roll and shape it into various things.

One day, we tried it out at home and had our arts and craft session at home.



Here's what we did:
1. We rolled it into several rolls and glued it at the end to secure the circles.


2. We sticked the rolls together...

3. Add the eyes and Voila! A bird!


4. And we changed the shapes of the circles and it became Mickey Mouse! :))

5. We made the star to go with it.

To end it, here are the two chicks who joined the arts and craft session. Hehehe...



15 October 2012

Being a Mom...


Children.
They can give me a headache, they can make my mind go numb.
They can make me feel frustrated, they can make me want to snap.
They can be wilful and rude, they can drive me up the wall.
But you know what.
They too can make me laugh, they can make me go silly.
They can cheer me up, they can make my day.
They can make me feel proud, they can make me feel loved.
Yes it’s funny how, despite all the tough bits children give you everyday, you just can’t BUT love them all the way. ~Leonny

01 October 2012

Toilet



When Timmy was smaller, he followed me to the Ladies toilet.

However, going to the toilet these days is different these days.
Early this year, Timmy refused to go to the Ladies toilet any more.
He wanted to go to the Gents toilet.

Things became difficult for me, when we went out to the Mall, and I needed to go to the toilet.
Because usually there is a long queue at the Ladies toilet, and if we only went out just the two of us, it made me worried for leaving Timmy too long outside the toilet alone, in case he got lost.

Lately, I can trust him better.
We made a deal to wait for each other at a meeting point, just outside the toilet.

Oh oh...he's growing up.

Bike Riding

I miss riding a bike with Timmy. We used to do that every afternoon.
Now, with my busy schedule, it is not possible anymore. 










27 September 2012

Making Faces

Timmy was making faces.
At that time, one of his front teeth was still not in place, and his other milk teeth was still there.







20 September 2012

Spending Time with Grandpa


I just love this photo...
Grandpa writing something for Timmy and Timmy with his big smiles... :))

Perhaps one day when we look back at this photo, Grandpa's hair will be all whites, and Timmy has grown up.... :))
16 March 2012


Spa Music Relaxation With Piano Long Time Mix by Spavevo




Music...always calm my soul....


Feelings

We were reading books about feelings....





Followed by an activity of  hammering nails into Styrofoam.
Too often, we do not realize that our words have hurt other people's feelings...
Words can heal or words can wound....

And when bad words are uttered out from our mouth, we cannot pull it back.
We can say sorry for what we said, but the effect of that bad words will still be there...

We reinforced this activity, by hammering nails into the Styrofoam.
The nails that we hammered, are like those bad words...
We can pull the nails out, but the hole will still be there, after we pull the nails out...



Note to Timmy: 
Mama hopes that you will remember this activity for the rest of your life...
Please be considerate to others....
Acknowledge people's feelings, as well as yours...

Speak words that are positive, supportive, kind and loving.
The kind of words that will make people feel energized, motivated and loved.


Love,
Mama




Enjoying Life Simple Pleasures









School

Reflecting back the school days...

It just seems like yesterday when Timmy attended the Kindergarten A.
Now he is in Primary 2...
Gee...Time flies....
I could still recall the mornings when he refused to go to school.


Here's the snap of photos, counting backwards....

This photo was taken when he was in Primary 1.
When he was being the "Class Leader" of the week.


This was the path that we walked everyday, when Timmy was in Kindergarten B. 
We talked along the way, chit chatting.... 


...until we reached this turn, and Timmy refused to walk any further... 
He just stood there, no matter how hard I tried to persuade him...

I tried everything, from talking to him nicely to power struggle... 
And at that time, his power was quite strong already... 
It was an embarrassing, tiring and stressful time for me....

This was the gate, where teachers would stand in front of the gate every morning to greet the children during his Kindergarten B.


This was the path that we walked when Timmy attended Kindergarten A.  

And at this turn, Timmy would cry and refused to go to school,
because he knew that right after this turn, we reached the school gate.





















This was the gate when Timmy was in Kindergarten A.
I was persuading him to walk from that turn above until we reached the school gate.
















Getting him to enter the school gate was another matter.
He would hang in there, holding to the bars, crying...
















The kids activities behind the bars...














And now those days are gone...
Timmy is now entering the school gate smoothly everyday....